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Parenting Emotionally Intense Gifted Children

September 8, 2012

Article reblogged from:  Parenting Emotionally Intense Gifted Children.

Parenting Emotionally Intense Gifted Children

By Lesley Sword

What is Emotional Intensity?

Giftedness has an emotional as well as intellectual component. Intellectual complexity goes hand in hand with emotional depth. So gifted children not only think differently from other children they also feel differently. Emotional intensity in gifted people is not a matter of feeling more than other people, it is a different way of experiencing the world.One of the basic characteristics of the gifted is their intensity. Intensity is not a matter of degree but of a different way of experiencing: vivid, absorbing, penetrating, encompassing, complex, commanding – a way of being quiveringly alive.

How Is Emotional Intensity Expressed?

Emotional intensity is positively correlated with intelligence and so the higher the intellectual level, the more emotionally intense a gifted child will be. Emotional intensity is expressed by the gifted through a wide range of feelings, attachments. compassion, heightened sense of responsibility and scrupulous self-examination.While these are normal for the gifted and appear very early in gifted children, they are often mistaken for emotional immaturity rather than as evidence of a rich inner life.

Intensity of feeling: positive feelings, negative feelings, extremes of emotion, complex emotions, identification with others’ feelings, laughing and crying together

Somatic bodily expression: tense stomach, sinking heart, blushing, flushing

Inhibition: timidity, shyness

Strong affective memory

Fears and anxieties, feelings of guilt

Concerns with death, depressive and suicidal moods

Relationship feelings: emotional ties and attachments, concern for others empathy, sensitivity in relationships, attachment to animals, difficulty in adjusting to new environments, loneliness, conflicts with others over depth of relationship

Feelings toward self: self-evaluation and self-judgment, feelings of inadequacy and inferiority.

What Does It Mean To Be An Emotionally Gifted Person In A Society That Doesn’t Value Feelings?

Many people seem unaware that intense emotions are part of giftedness and little attention is paid to this component of giftedness. Historically the expression of intense feelings has been seen as a sign of emotional instability rather than as evidence of a rich inner life. The traditional Western view is of emotions and intellect as separate and contradictory phenomenon. Males stereotypically are brought up not to have emotions and females are often seen as the “keeper” of the emotions for the family. There is however, an inextricable link between emotions and intellect and, combined, they have a profound effect on gifted people. The emotional lives of the gifted are very intense. When society and other people emphasise only rationality, neglecting emotional experiences, gifted children can become anxious, depressed, alienated, socially inept or emotionally blocked.Feeling everything more deeply than others do is both painful and frightening. Emotionally intense gifted people feel abnormal. “There must be something wrong with me….. maybe I’m crazy… nobody else seems to feel like this”.Emotionally intense gifted people often experience intense inner conflict, self-criticism, anxiety and feelings of inferiority. The medical community often sees these conflicts as symptoms and labels gifted people neurotic. Emotionally intense gifted children exhibit a super sensitivity of the nervous system that makes them acutely perceptive and sensitive, more discriminating of external stimuli and more analytical and critical of themselves and others. This accounts for the tendency for young emotionally intense gifted children to be described frequently as “hyperactive” and “distractable”.Heightened sensitivity to things that happen in the world may be a normal response for gifted children. However they may see their own intense inner experiences as evidence that something is wrong with them.

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